There are many reasons people date one another. Some do it as a form of entertainment. Some do it because they're bored and need to get out of the house. Some are looking for boyfriends/girlfriends or a husband or wife. While others do it to fulfill certain needs, like financial or sexual. There are numerous reasons people date. I want to share my two cents as to what I believe the ultimate goal of dating is. MARRIAGE!
It is my believe that the ultimate goal of two people dating each other is to marry. Now let's examine this further. I understand that a 16 yr old going on a date with their first boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't necessarily have marriage in mind at that time, although some teenagers have fond thoughts of getting married. Usually the women, but some men as well. I for one believe that speaking of teenagers, there should be a certain age before young ones start dating. I won't tell you an exact age but teenagers should have a certain level of maturity before they date. They should be knowledgeable about sex, birth control, date rape, peer pressure etc. As far as birth control is concerned tread lightly on this subject with your young adult. Sometimes explaining birth control can give kids a false sense that your giving them the thumbs up on having sex which I believe they should be taught abstinence always until marriage.
As far as young adults I believe the focus should be getting to know yourself, and what you want in a spouse. To do that you should first read the post "Know thy self" then, you need to date! That's the only way to find out who your compatible with and what type of man/woman you get along with, or are attracted too. As far as attraction, I mean more then looks. I mean personality. I assure you a beautiful package won't go to far if that's all they have to offer. If they have an ugly personality or you just can't seem to get along, they start to get less and less attractive over time. The more you date different people the more of an idea you will form of who you are and what type of spouse will work for you. I'm not saying be a player. There is nothing wrong with dating different people at the same time. As long as your not leading anyone on, or committing to a relationship. Lying to them saying "your the only one". Just be honest with it. Say "I'm dating, looking for that special someone".
As far as those more seasoned. You've been around the block more then a few times. You've had your fair share of good and bad experiences. You know the type of man/woman you get along with. You know what you can deal with and what you can't. Dating at this point should be a process of elimination. If your attentive you can usually tell if a relationship has any potential on the first date. My advice to you is why waste your time with someone that you know early on is probably not a match for you. For example. You want kids and the other person doesn't. Yes down the road a person can change their mind, but odds are against you. Why take a chance and waste your time.
Overall dating can be a very exciting thing. You get to hang out. Fellowship with others learn yourself and how others work, what makes them tick. Just remember the overall purpose God has for dating, and that is to marry. Allow me to mention that God created the art of MAKING LOVE. Yes for those who marry, making love is a form of worship to God. There is a reason we are attracted to the opposite sex and have those desires. This is to prompt us to marry. 1 CORINTHIANS 7:9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
May God bless you all!
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